Celebrating women

Are gay men really the great celebrators of women the media makes them out to be?

Gay men are great at celebrating women. Well that’s what we’re led to believe. You see supposed examples everywhere; from the GBFs of Sex and the City to our newly hailed queens of TV; Graham Norton and Alan Carr who mince across our TV screens generally getting away with behaviour only gay men can. No hen do seems to be complete these days without the token gay man strutting his stuff in a tiara while Gok Wan does things to women on national TV that send shudders down one’s spine.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m no homophobe and I’m not talking about all gay men. I’m talking specifically about the ‘media gays’. Those that live by a prescriptive gay code as laid out in the media; who love all things Kylie, Gaga and Glee. The self named ‘queens’ of society who, although in a minority within the gay community, demand so much attention that they seem to be everywhere. But watch your back girls because as soon as its turned it could be your crown they’re after.

Most media gays I’ve encountered have a tendency to want to trump the women in their life by being the main object of desire in every social situation, yet watch a media gay at any party and you can bet the girls will be competing for his attention. At weddings it even crosses generations as mums and aunts compete with their daughters and neices, clambering over each other in the process.

But is all the clambering worth it? Media gays can be high maintenance with a need to be constantly entertained and adored yet generally have the attention span of a goldfish – unless of course the subject of conversation is them. They tend to be unequivocally bitchy yet are allowed by many females to get away with far more than their female counterparts. Perhaps women are so drawn to them because the media gay represents a liberated version of us; wearing his bitchiness and vanity on his sleeve and owning an unflappable self confidence that women still struggle more than men to achieve.

And who exactly is this whole GBF accessory trend working best for anyway? The media gays I’ve met have been openly more attracted to heterosexual men than other gay men; the ultimate ego boost for them being to turn a straight man gay. What strategy is better for attracting hot heterosexual men? Hanging out with a group of women or hanging out with a gay queen? Hmmm. Talk about a win lose situation. No wonder so many single girls are asking where all the decent single men have gone. Erm…probably scared off by your GBF who kept stroking their legs under the table last Saturday.

In this particular instance, I can’t help thinking that we’re getting ‘Celebrating women’ confused with ‘Taking the piss out of women’ .
Posted 04:23 PM on Tue Jun 22 2010
By Barbie
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    Single Minded at 01:45 PM on Thu Jun 24 2010 | flag     

    I'd like to suggest that the answer to this article is that women, now days, are way too superficial. It use to be men that were blinded by shapely legs and chest. Now it's women who are after six pack owning, well attired, caring, touchy feely men.

    Hence the rise in GBF. Women don't need to be carbon copies of superficial men to be liberated.