Why do us girls still want to get married?

It’s one of the inherent ironies of our generation. Long term co-habiting partners have much the same rights as married couples these days; I know of few women who yearn to be called ‘Mrs’, as more wives opt to keep their own name, yet many of us still want to get married. Our partners might not see the point of it anymore, yet, as I write this, girls across the country are dropping hints and getting moody with their bamboozled partner, because he hasn’t yet slipped the question, and they find it hard to verbalize why.

I’m 29, but still refer to myself as a girl, and I suppose the girl in me is slightly scared of becoming a woman; first a wife then an old wifey? The beginning of the end…. Yet still, I’d be elated if my boyfriend were to propose. Perhaps, that why I’m so keen; because I do still feel like a girl: The same girl who dreamed of getting married in a beautiful wedding dress and tiara. And, however irrational it may be, I have a need to achieve that childhood wish.

Some Daily Mail readers may tell you that Britney and Peaches have made a mockery out of the whole thing with their short term marriages. Surely, if these readers were that securely married, marriage would stand up to these trivial attempts? Is what they’re really saying ‘I’ve sacrificed so much to make my marriage work – you can’t make a mockery out of it, as it will devalue my entire existence?’

But can we really blame Peaches for her attitude? Her mum and dad – Bob Geldof and Paula Yates – were supposedly deeply in love yet their marriage didn’t last and they both moved onto new partners. Perhaps there is something truly unromantic about getting married for the long haul? Every cell in your body is said to change every seven years; we may not even recognize ourselves by the time the seven year itch comes around, let alone our partner.

Only the other day, my mum was commenting on what a good husband a friend of hers had, because he pulled out a seat for her and helped her with her jacket. Personally, I find these things quite irritating. I freelance around advertising agencies in London, and in the lifts, the men will always let the women go first: However, if you’re in a meeting with them, they barely listen to a word you say, assume the women in the room will be taking notes and talk over you.

I want to be treated like an equal in a relationship. I can get myself into a seat and open my own doors. I want a partner who is evolving and interesting and who I can talk things through with. I’d agree with ‘Let’s Cyber’, the so called ‘geeky’ men are amoung the type of men my friends and I enjoy being with these days. The brain numbing, self obsessed men who hunt in packs, are the least attractive to us.

The days of white knights and bended knees really weren’t all they were cracked up to be. Marriage is a life long commitment to each other, and should take the form of an equal partnership. If you’re fortunate enough to be with the right man, there has never been a better time to pop that question.

So why am I still waiting for him to propose?

Posted 03:03 PM on Sun Mar 08 2009

By Work Slave

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