I'm just a girl, standing in front of a boy, asking him to love her...

I’ve had a day doing something no single girl should ever do unless with friends, watch rom coms non stop. All this Hollywood romance nonsense has got me wondering….... just who is the perfect man? Does such a thing actually exist? In the world of Julia Roberts it does obviously but what about the real world? And besides if I find some one right now and I think that they are right for me how do i know that they are the person that I am going to want in say five years time? Tastes change, do they change in people as well as clothes? Is what I consider a good man now going to share the same qualities as someone that I may end up spending the rest of my life with?

We’re all told that life is a fairy tale, that we will be rescued by a knight in shining armour and that a tall dark handsome stranger is just waiting around the corner to sweep us all off of our feet. But I don’t want a knight, not even if they come with glorious white horse. I imagine that the armour wouldn’t stay shiny forever and it would be very impractical on a day to day basis. And I don’t want a tall dark and handsome stranger. Tall and Dark? Well, height and eye/hair/skin colour isn’t important to me. To be honest, neither is handsome.

So with all that in mind, how can I tell who the perfect man is? Whoever he is he has to be different for everyone, I mean if everyone liked the same person there would actually be another world war ala Mean Girls style. And as well as that, everyone has flaws so surely as no one is perfect this so called perfect man can’t possibly exist, can he? Saying that everyone has a soul mate who matches their own flaws is a comforting thought but even they might not be your idea of perfection. I mean, they might have smelly feet or eat skin or keep toads in the fridge or something. And that’s just a bit weird really.

So who exactly is my perfect man? What is he going to be like? And will I find his qualities as important when I’m thirty something and looking to settle down?

At the same time though, you could think you have met your perfect man but you might not be his idea of a perfect girl. Life is cruel like that. But if it does turn out that I am one of the lucky ones and I meet a guy who decides that I am his perfect girl before I am old and have been eaten by Alsatians how will I be able to tell the difference between Mr Right and Mr Right now.? Are there any guidelines? I mean, let’s be serious here for a moment, I am only 22, I’m not looking to settle down right now I want to live a little first and besides I like the idea of the search, it’s a challenge. But I would like to have some idea of which guys out there are perfect just so I don’t get too badly hurt along the way and give up looking for THE ONE.

I guess perfection is down to the individual but I can safely say that looks, hair, eyes, body and money aren’t important. Nor is dress sense. (Although, I would prefer a man that can wear skinny jeans to tracksuit bottoms….) All those things don’t make a person, just what that person looks like. And money? Not important to me at all. Besides there are loads of films out there where rich person falls in love with poor person and they end up together through the face of adversity. Honestly, I wouldn’t rule out my perfect man being a poverty stricken orphan or an incredibly wealthy millionaire. I’m looking for the personality behind all of that.

I think my perfect man would have to be laid back but with a hint of spontaneity. The type of person who would randomly text you just because they feel like it. Or would just phone you just because they want to hear your voice. Also I want someone to show me romance exists. Not in a cheesy sickening way but in a good way. In a way that can change me from a heartless cynic to the type of person who can see beauty in everything. I want someone who’s intelligent so I can converse but at the same time likes to fool around every now and again. Someone who won’t take themselves too seriously. Someone creative…. maybe a musican or a writer. Someone who is open minded and supportive of everything I do. Someone who is decisive. No racist, sexist or homophobic comments. Someone colourful, animated and captivating. Someone who can teach me something new everyday. Someone who never ceases to amaze me. Someone who is big enough to admit when they are wrong. Someone who is passive rather than argumentative. Someone who is considerate, kind and sensitive. Someone a little kookey and eccentric. But most importantly, I want someone who can make me laugh. There you are chaps, they key to my heart is: laughter. So if you can do that you’re one step there.

Is all of that asking a bit too much? I think if you’re going to give your heart to somebody you dont want to be letting cowboys in there. Its important to have standards .Hopefully the guy who is apparently out there for me will match up to that or I’m going to be terribly disappointed when the time comes for our eyes to meet over a crowded room. Or maybe I should care less about that stuff and worry more about the looks and the height and the money and stuff like that.

So, is the perfect man out there? I guess we’ll never know. I suppose only time will tell but here’s hoping that he is and that he isn’t too hard for me to find. And most importantly that a short twenty something with bad eyesight, worse hair and a slight obsession with Doctor Who is exactly what he’s looking for .

Posted 11:36 PM on Fri Jan 14 2011

By Little_Leah

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